I have a five year old son, whom I adore. The past few weeks he has turned sour. I'm not sure what is wrong, but he is never satisfied, always complaining, picking fights and blaming it on the fact that he doesn't get what he wants. This is my happy-go-lucky child who always makes my life better. I need him back desperately!! The bigger problem is that this turns me into a ranting lunatic. I become a five year old myself saying things like "That's right and you're never going to get anything you want if you act like this," or "Life isn't fair and you need to get used to it...." The speeches go on and on. It turns a switch in me that I can't control and feel like I'm making the problems worse. What would you do? Any suggestions are helpful.
Sincerely,
Kindergarten Cop
4 comments:
I'm just glad I am not the only mother who has uttered those same words. Hope Abby has some magical words for you and I hope your old son comes back REAl soon.
Hey, we seem to be running into the same thing over here. Five has been the hardest age with Alex so far. His sweet little self hasn't left us totally, but there are times where I can't see much of it in there. I feel your frustration.
Have his cousin James come to play for a week!!
I'm so sorry. He is such an amazing kid and that's really frustrating. And I feel his pain too--sometimes I think I'd feel more pleasant if things went my way more often!
So I don't have kids and I don't know how to translate this to 5 year old, or even to someone else, but what I do for myself when I'm feeling that way is stop and take a few minutes to think about all the things in the situation that are going my way. Sometimes I have to think hard before I come up with something, and sometimes it has to be that I'm glad the Lord and my family love me. Eventually I realize that the part I'm complaining about is only small compared to all the things that are going well for me. Then after that (and I have to do that first part before the next one works, even as an adult!) I think about what things I can do to make the situation better.
Again, I don't know how to translate that to a 5 year old. Not having kids, I'd probably just sit down with him like he was a grownup and explain everything I just explained (you all laugh :) ). I suppose he might need a little more help in the implementation part. Anyway, that's what I've got, for what it's worth. I hope things get better!
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